🚨 THE URGENCY ILLUSION IS RUINING YOUR LIFE 🚨
That email that “needs’ an immediate response? It doesn’t. That text from a colleague at 8PM? It can wait until tomorrow. That notification during dinner with your family? The world won’t end if you ignore it. Try this experiment: After years of treating every ping like a five-alarm fire: Your attention is your most valuable […]
The Question That Changes Everything ✨
*Sarah (not her real name) stared at her third rejection email this week. “God, why me?” she whispered, six months unemployed and feeling forgotten. At a coffee shop, she overheard something that changed everything: “I spent months asking ‘why me?’ after getting laid off. Then someone asked: ‘What if God is using this to prepare […]
Bridging the Generational Divide: Finding Purpose Across Life’s Seasons
What generational challenges do you observe in your own community? How might you personally work to bridge these divides? These questions have been weighing on my mind since reading Bob Shank’s insightful essay on generational theory. Shank presents a compelling perspective: most people in life’s first half lack the bandwidth for theoretical thinking, consumed as […]
Finding Your “What” When Life Only Offers “Why”
Ever stood in the wreckage of your plans wondering “why me?” I’ve been there. For nine years, I resisted faith while my wife left Bible verses on sticky notes everywhere—even on the remote control during Monday Night Football. That’s commitment! But I’ve learned something powerful: “Why” questions rarely have satisfying answers, but “What” questions open […]
The Joy of BEing at 78
Today marks my 78th trip around the sun, and I can honestly say I feel great! As I reflect on the journey that has brought me here, I’m reminded of the central question that has guided my life: “What do you want to BE when you grow up?” The beauty of this question is that […]
From “Why” to “What”: My Journey of Transformation
I never understood the power of questions until life forced me to change the ones I was asking. When my 19 year old fiancée Debbie’s parents died suddenly in a plane crash, my first reaction was pure anguish. “Why did God do this?” I screamed internally. This question haunted me, offering no peace, no path […]
When Your Job Becomes Your Affair
Let me tell you about my first affair. Her name was The Sextant – a 30,000-square-foot restaurant in Newport Beach that consumed every waking moment of my life. My second affair? Heads Up Inc., a manufacturing company that grew to over 300 employees. Both relationships ended badly, and both nearly cost me my marriage. Now, […]
The Secret Ingredient of a Healthy Family (Hint: It’s Not Perfect Parents)
Let me tell you about my first day as a father. There we were, bringing baby Jack home from the hospital, and I kid you not – we turned him over and over, searching every fold and crease for the instruction manual that surely must have come with him. Spoiler alert: there wasn’t one. That […]
Three Non-Negotiable Guardrails That Could Save Your Life
Ever driven along a mountain road? Those guardrails might not look like much, but they’re often the only thing between you and a very long drop. Life’s a bit like that too – we all need some non-negotiable guardrails to keep us from veering off into dangerous territory. Let me tell you a story about […]
Finding Your Purpose Through Life’s Detours
Let me tell you about my first attempt at following my brother into dental school. There I was, sitting in Organic Chemistry at Pasadena City College, convinced I had my whole life figured out. My brother was already a successful dentist, and I thought, “Why not follow in his footsteps?” Seemed logical enough. Well, let’s […]